{"id":2418,"date":"2012-10-19T09:03:23","date_gmt":"2012-10-19T15:03:23","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.everydave.com\/thoughts\/?p=2418"},"modified":"2012-10-19T09:03:23","modified_gmt":"2012-10-19T15:03:23","slug":"decision-making-disorder","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/everydave.com\/thoughts\/2012\/10\/19\/decision-making-disorder\/","title":{"rendered":"Decision Making Disorder"},"content":{"rendered":"

Those that know me know I have an issue with making decisions. This usually manifests itself for the big decisions, those that will take a lot of resources (time, money, whatever…). I do a ridiculous amount of research and bother people asking for their opinions on things, often ad nauseum. The end goal is to give myself enough information about a decision to feel good about whatever the decision is.
\nLately that’s gone a bit off track. I’ve made decisions I’ve regretted, nothing major at all, but the fact that I made the “wrong” decision eats at me and it’s been difficult to let go. I just gotta deal with it, remind myself that it’s really not a big deal at all, let it go…
\nThe other decision making disorder scenario is where I just don’t care. The typical setup is “ do you want to ?” asked by someone else. “I don’t know\/care” or “Whatever” are common responses to communicate that I don’t care. Well, ok, I’ve communicated my ambivalence, but that hardly helps the person asking the question. Obviously if they are asking the question then they are seeking assistance to reach a decision and are asking for useful feedback. My typical response in that scenario can’t be classified as “useful”.
\nThen what? I profess to not care, but then when pressed I still don’t give useful feedback, I’ll waffle about but won’t actually make a decision. Lame. I guess I really do care then, but it’s hit me that while I don’t care what the decision is, I do care that it’s not the “wrong” decision. Much ado about nothing, really, we’re talking about such earth-shaking matters like what to eat, or what movie to see, or something of equal importance. So what if it’s the wrong decision, live and learn, right? A bad meal or a bad movie isn’t the end of the world, and at least you’ll have an idea of what to avoid in the future…
\nI gotta let it go, it’s ok to be wrong. Besides, if I really don’t care, then pick one, any one. It will at least be a useful answer given to the person that asked for my feedback in the first place. It’s the least I can do for someone considerate enough to ask my opinion.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Those that know me know I have an issue with making decisions. This usually manifests itself for the big decisions, those that will take a lot of resources (time, money, whatever…). I do a ridiculous amount of research and bother people asking for their opinions on things, often ad nauseum. The end goal is to […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[4],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-2418","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-random"],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"","jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/everydave.com\/thoughts\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2418","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/everydave.com\/thoughts\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/everydave.com\/thoughts\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/everydave.com\/thoughts\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/everydave.com\/thoughts\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=2418"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/everydave.com\/thoughts\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2418\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/everydave.com\/thoughts\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=2418"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/everydave.com\/thoughts\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=2418"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/everydave.com\/thoughts\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=2418"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}